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7 Ways Chivalry Won’t Die

Being an old-fashioned gentleman is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact if every man used a dose every now and then, chivalry won’t die.

A couple weeks ago I took my bride to see ‘Old Fashioned’. While many people flocked to see 50 shades of grey I chose some old fashioned chivalry.

Now I am not a perfect man by any means. I can say that I do try though. Being raised in the south. I would like to think I was raised right. I learned manners and respect at a young age. I watched how my dad treated my mom and how his dad treated his mom.

My heart hurts for those who have no role model worthy to follow.

I am one of those people that says ‘thank you’ when you refill my sweet tea, and yes only sweet tea will do. If you happen to sneeze, automatically you get a ‘God Bless you!’ Not only because it is polite but because I truly pray He will.

When I say ‘ya’ll’ i am being inclusive not ignorant. If I open the door or pull out your chair. It is not because I think you are incapable. It is because I am able and respect you. As a man I will continue to do the same until I am no longer able.

I stopped to pick up some barbecue at my local Sonny’s a few nights ago. As we left the pick up window I opened the truck door for my wife. A middle age colored gentleman stopped me. ‘ Wow that is rare, you make me proud!’ He explained how kids these days have no respect. I politely responded ‘I have opened it for her for the past 12 plus years and will always do the same.’ You see chivalry is not dead, least not yet.

Two Sides to Every Marriage

Just like a coin, there are two sides to every marriage. Do you find yourself at times at odds with your spouse? Worried that no matter what you say or do it won’t be right. This is not to say that there is anything wrong per se. Women and men are built differently, we all know that. Whether they are from Mars and eat Waffles or from Venus full of Spaghetti. No matter what the interpretation the result it we are different, and thank God we are. Being different can cause divides in understanding that can make it feel like we don’t know one another. This has nothing to do with how much we love and adore each other. Everyone knows that you love one another, but is that enough? You pass by each other throughout your days together like two ships in a harbor. You know each other are there and may wave in passing without really checking into port. If we don’t make the effort to check-in and communicate with each other we will become strangers In the night. Keeping this in mind, the way we check-in is going to be different, what works for one will not work for the other. Let me break it down a little bit for you. Ladies- When we say we are thinking nothing ..we mean we really are thinking “nothing”. Feelings are different for us, they are not colored with rainbows led by unicorns and many times they come in one syllable words. We do not know how to fix things […]